Be Abnormal

Lesson #4


Now that you have an overall sense of what the GFY Method is all about let’s get into the meat and potatoes of this mentality.  Plain and simple, GFY requires a fundamental change in thinking.  No quick fixes through this method sorry ladies and gents.  The masses (sheep) just think, and GFYers think DIFFERENTLY.  That little change is the difference between being average or great, but is there a measuring stick for being average or great?  Socially and economically one could say the stick is transparent in terms of dollar signs, but if that was 100% true then rich people wouldn’t have any problems.  The difference between being average and great is the choice a person makes and it begins with their attitude and thinking.  Compound that with perseverance and loving challenges and you got the magic elixir.  It’s as simple as that.  Most people chase “normalcy” which is only being average, and also not GFY.    

Let’s take a look at what being an average American really means and see if that’s important to strive for.  Divorced, overweight, and chemically depended (nicotine, caffeine, alcohol, medicine) to name a few negatives.  Yes people that’s the average I didn’t make this stuff up, but let’s not focus on the results completely, but instead on the why this has become the norm.  As kids we all had dreams of becoming astronauts, super heroes, the President of United States, professional athletes, and so on.  As we grew older we succeeded and failed at many things because of choices and circumstances which in turn mapped the course of our existence both negatively and positively.  Once adulthood is reached, our life’s blueprint becomes the roadmap to our very end.  It is very hard to amend this blueprint/roadmap because our thinking was also shaped by the past and that is the biggest culprit that most don’t acknowledge.  Our attitude and thinking throughout life created a lens which life is seen through, which in turn created a reality that most people believe cannot be altered.  Reality can most certainly be changed through the correct means, but the “common wisdom” habits do not work which in turn makes people revert back to their hopeless reality.  What “common wisdom” habits am I talking about?  Working hard, goal setting, reducing stress are a few, but I will get into these in my next lesson.  Failure to implement these so called “positive” habits has a yoyo affect that drains people of energy and breaks their confidence even more.  This cycle of chasing normalcy never ends because people try to go from poor to average throughout their life.   I wouldn’t wish this “normal” on my worse enemies. 

Now let me ask you… why would anyone want to be average(normal)?   GFY pushes a person to want to be great… to be abnormal.  William James, American psychologist and philosopher, once said “people by in large become what they think of themselves.”  Once again we get back to the THINK topic.  What you think and what you desire out of life is what ends up happening.  We decide how we think, how to feel, and how to act.  Plan your thoughts and control your attitude to perform at the highest level.  The reason control of emotions and thoughts is so important to the GFY method is because the energy is felt by everyone around you not just yourself.  More doors open with a positive attitude than a negative one… write it down people it’s true.  GFY is all about taking responsibility for past actions and realizing that only through responsibility, correct thinking, and correct actions is success possible.  Normalcy just doesn’t work… Look at all the fads and quick fixes.  The reason they fail and fade is because people put the positive outcome expectancy on the diet, book, pill, foods, etc.  “If it doesn’t work then it’s not MY fault”…. You get my drift.  Not only until a person takes the responsibility to make a fundamental change in their life will it have positive and lasting effects.  Fundamental change happens through meaning…whatever that might be for every individual.  If it’s meaningful enough then the change will stick. It’s not about quick fixes and answers but instead it’s about thinking clearly and acting differently.  Being abnormal is GFY.